Living or accompanying a process in Integral Transformation is a unique creation in each present moment. It is much more a craft than a technique. Of course it is well founded on universal principles but always under the guidance of a superior intelligence. To learn it you must first go through your own processes, then study the concepts. But the fine tuning of the art is captured by attending accompanied transformation process sessions. To optimize your learning, there are 5 possible (learning) postures to adopt during the session.
THE 5 POSSIBLE POSTURES
WHILE ATTENDING A TRANSFORMATION CYCLE
There are 5 possible learning postures to experience when witnessing a process of transformation. Each of them emphasizes a different aspect of learning to be an Integral Transformation (IT) coach. I put them in order of importance.
- Holding Space
- Learning the Transformation Cycle
- Learning the Geographic Map of IT
- Learning character structures
This posture comes in very first position because it allows you to experience letting yourself be accompanied, to taste a cycle of IT, to feel its stages and its effects in oneself and, in doing so, to understand, little by little, and through experience, the analytical aspects.
It is a posture that also allows you to occasionally offer yourself the possibility of taking advantage of the vortex of the group, of benefiting from time and space for yourself, from guidance, intelligence, attention and universal love available in the vortex of the group to move forward in one’s own journey, even if one has already acquired some experiences of IT cycles.
Surrendering to one’s own process in this way does not mean collapsing in one’s process and adopting the posture of a victim seeking outside help. On the contrary, it is a moment inspired by a form of wisdom which dictates that, here and now, it is the moment to take care of oneself rather than to take care of the other.
We do not separate from the group either to go live our experience alone in a corner, on the contrary we consciously and discreetly live our own process in coexistence with the process in progress with the IP coach. We thus live by experience the reality of a non-duality: there is no choice to be made between me and the other, our processes can harmoniously take place together within this same creative vortex.
At the end of this exercise, it is always useful to take notes concerning the realizations made, the lessons learned, the evidence, the confrontations, the needs,… and anything that allows us to move forward on our Path and that is will thus find it strengthened, more constructed, allowing us to progress with more certainty.
2. HOLDING SPACE
This posture is largely underestimated and even misunderstood in our society where everything is based on action and the visible whereas, without some quality Holding of Space, any methodology or practice is much less deep and less effective.
This posture consists of deeply embodying the Integral Presence (IP) during the process of the person who is in process session.
And if, in the moment, we can still have a little more lucidity and our Neutral Observer answers the call, we can move on to point B.
Consists of identifying what is the current PI activity in the session; cultivate our gaze in the invisible and solicit our subtle senses as much as possible.
Examples of possible observations:
I feel that, at this moment, a maternal energy descends, that the person is still in resistance but, little by little, I see that he/she is beginning to open up to it and that this energy can penetrate into her field.
I observe that the person is hardly breathing. To suggest by example, the coach takes several deep breaths and I see that then the person also gives himself more permission to breathe more deeply.
Take note to solidify our experience (see Point 1.C.)
3. Learning the Cycle of Transformation
This 3rd posture is applicable to a vast area of domains and not only to personal or spiritual development or coaching, which is why it occupies this place in front of the last 2 postures.
It consists of the observation of the process which is accompanied in order to learn to recognize the phases of the Cycle of Transformation that are being activated. It can be a particular phase, back and forth trips between two phases, omitted phases, etc. Several cycles can also run at the same time. So there are all kinds of things to observe.
Once a phase has, or some phases have, been identified, we can observe the reaction of the person in process as well as the approach of the coach: for example, if the person is in resistance, the coach will apply a rather yin energy and a welcoming attitude; in the case of a confrontation phase, the therapist will have a firmer attitude; in a phase of chaos, again rather an attitude of welcome and unconditional love.
We therefore learn here to develop the right reflex in relation to each phase of the cycle.
Note taking to anchor each learning (see 1.C.)
4. Learning the Geographic Map of IT
This learning is already a little more sophisticated, not always easy, but it can be very moving, creative and it becomes simply magical in part C (below).
The observer learns here to identify the defense at work, he names it and qualifies it. Example: porcupine energy, receding energy field, thorn, mental hook, belief, etc.
Attitude to adopt when one is a therapist: connect deeply with one’s own Higher Self, then seek the divine connection with the Higher Self of the person in process. Once this connection is properly installed, we can open at point C.
And it is here that the magic begins to operate: a real co-creativity takes place between the two deep Beings to help the coachee to transform his beliefs, his wounds and the manifestations of his Lower Self.
This co-creativity generates real magic in generating the integral transformation process.
Note taking (see 1.C.)
5. Learning character structures
Identify what character structure is revealed in the process at each present moment transition.
Attention ”identifying” does not mean fixing, it is something that is expressed at this moment by the person, but the person is not his character.
As with the previous posture, deeply connect our Higher Self with the Higher Self of the other.
Remember the talents specific to the character structure at work: each structure has particular talents – examples:
The schizoid has a lot of creativity and a strong spirituality
The oral is very open to proximity, to intimacy
The masochist is very loyal and has a lot of stamina
The psychopath has noble values and virtues and takes a lot of responsibility
The rigid is very balanced, symmetrical and very well organized
From there, accompany the person by meeting him in his talents, behind his defenses, and help him to cross these defenses in an accompaniment of identification and reinforcement of his talents to bring him towards his Light.
Note taking (see 1.C.)
NB: The choice of the posture for which we have opted can evolve during the process of the accompanied person according to our own needs (for example if significant resonances “take us away” and make it difficult to maintain the posture of ‘observer.
However, it is important, in the context of learning, to do everything not to be distracted and to voluntarily keep your focus in order to avoid that the learning remains superficial.
Let’s try as much as possible not to enter into the dance of postures and thus practice a professional approach to Integral Coaching.